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While some women make it a point to check
each of the
21 categories, others will only check the particular categories that
seem to apply to
their marriage or their mate. To insure that no one overlooks an
important telltale sign,
some of the signs (about a dozen) are listed under more than one
category.
For example:
“He always calls a certain female to share the special events in
his life.”
This sign is listed under
Telephone Tip-Offs
and again under
His Behavior Around Other Women.
“He starts showering you with gifts or buying you flowers for no
special reason.”
This sign is listed under
How He Relates to You
and also under
Gifts.
“You find deposit slips in his possession for someone else’s
bank account.”
This sign is listed under
Financial Affairs
as well as under
Physical Evidence.
Despite its title,
"Is He Cheating On You? - 829 Telltale Signs" actually contains
950 telltale signs. Additional signs were added before the final
version of this infidelity
book was printed. Readers continue to send in telltale signs they have
personally
discovered which did not appear in the book.
Continue reading for details on the 21 major categories of telltale
signs. When you
finish, be sure to visit
http://www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com
for more information
on cheating husbands and signs of infidelity.
Remember, you can’t afford to be
the last one to know.
A man having an affair (or even thinking about having one) will want
to make himself more attractive. He will begin to enhance his
appearance in some way. Be alert for changes in his wardrobe, his
grooming, his body, and his personal hygiene. These are usually the
most visible signs of infidelity. If he embarks on a drastic
self-induced makeover, it’s probably not for you. More than likely
he’s trying to attract or impress someone else. < Back
To Signs List >
The way your husband relates to you can provide many telltale signs.
His involvement with another woman will cause him to treat you
differently -- even on a subconscious level. This is one of those
areas where a wife can pick up signs of infidelity that a
private investigator might otherwise overlook.
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What your husband chooses or refuses to talk about can alert you to
his involvement in an extramarital affair. He may mention new people,
places and things, while the people, places and things he normally
talks about are no longer a part of his conversation. Even his tone of
voice can be an important telltale sign.
Work is commonly used as an excuse to account for large blocks of time
away from home. Men often use their jobs as a cover for their
extramarital affairs. Your husband’s work habits will undoubtedly
change as his affair unfolds. Be on the lookout work-related telltale
signs.
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We are all creatures of habit. We all have a routine that we usually
follow each day. A man who is cheating will display changes of some
kind in his normal patterns of behavior. Pay close attention to any
deviations in your husband’s daily routine. These deviations are
telltale signs.
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Affairs cost money. If your husband has a lover, he’ll want to wine
her, dine her, entertain her and buy her occasional gifts. No matter
how carefully he tries to cover his tracks, sooner or later this will
be reflected in the family finances. Stay alert for financial signs
of infidelity.
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Your husband may not always be traveling for legitimate reasons. Even
if he is, he may decide to combine business with a little pleasure.
Travel affords a cheating unfaithful husband a unique opportunity to
cheat away from prying eyes.
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Be alert for changes in your husband’s attitude, personality or
behavior. Whether they are drastic or subtle, changes of this type are
often an indication of infidelity.
Affairs generally require a considerable amount of time. Since there
are only 24 hours
in a day, your husband’s absences will become increasingly more
frequent as he tries
to steal time from other activities so he can be with his lover.
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Illicit affairs depend on repeated contact; many of which take place
by phone. These
telltale signs of infidelity are relatively easy to find.
Many men
take the risk of calling
their lovers from home or having their lovers call them at home. Many
wives (like me)
discover their husband’s infidelity either directly or indirectly by
the telephone.
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Your husband’s (or the family) car can be a
rich source of telltale signs. The glove compartment, car seats
(underneath and between), the tire well, the underside of the visor,
the ashtray, the side pockets or compartments, under the floor mats
and other nooks and crannies can reveal a wealth of information.
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12. SEX
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37 telltale signs
Be alert for any type of changes in the frequency or the quality of
your sex life
together. Most important of all: If you suspect your husband of having
an affair, take
steps to protect yourself. Do not put yourself at risk for HIV/AIDS,
herpes or other
sexually transmitted diseases.
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This is an area that wives usually overlook when checking for telltale
signs. But your
husband’s eating habits can be influenced or affected by his lover.
Without even
realizing it, he may develop a preference for the type of food she
eats, the way she
likes her food prepared or the kind of restaurants in which she likes
to eat.
These are
the types of telltale signs it would never occur to him to conceal.
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Each person has his or her own unique smell or taste. You may be
oblivious to it until it becomes replaced with something else. Pay close attention if your
husband smells or tastes “different,” or if something in your home or car just
doesn’t smell “right.” It
may warrant closer investigation.
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It's not uncommon for a man who's cheating to invite his lover to his
home. When this happens, it’s not unheard of for lovers to leave
personal items behind--sometimes deliberately, for an unsuspecting
wife to find.
You will usually find
evidence in your
bedroom or bathroom if another woman has been in your home while you
were away.
But telltale signs of infidelity may turn up in other areas of your
home, as well.
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16. GIFTS
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19 telltale signs
Be especially vigilant around the times of the year when gifts are
usually exchanged.
During the holidays and various other times throughout the year, you
may find gifts or
cards hidden around your home or in the car. Receipts or credit card
bills for gifts may
turn up shortly before or after Christmas and Valentine’s Day.
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It’s common these days for a cheating husband to use e-mail to
communicate with his lover. Some of the telltale signs in this category may also be an
indication of his
involvement in an online or cyber affair.
Don’t take this lightly.
These affairs can be as
harmful to your marriage as the real thing. Though they may not
involve sexual
contact, the emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and can
quickly progress
from cyberspace to physical reality.
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Today’s technological advances make it easier for a husband to cheat
on his wife. But it’s also easier for a husband to get caught while trying to make
contact or stay in
touch with his lover.
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Many times there’s physical evidence just waiting to be found. Check
your husband’s
wallet, his pants or jacket pockets, his desk or dresser drawers, the
wastepaper
basket, his closet shelves, the floor in the back of his closet, the
garage, his study,
filing cabinets, his workshop, his toolbox or any place else you can
think of. Keep
your eyes open. You’ll be surprised at the kinds of physical evidence
of infidelity you
can find.
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Studies show that a man is most likely to have an affair with someone
he already
knows—a woman he comes in contact with on a regular basis – a
neighbor, a
coworker, a family friend or business associate. If you’re observant,
you may be able
to determine the identity of your husband’s lover by the way he
behaves in her
presence, or by how she behaves around him.
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Sometimes you get lucky and find out what your husband has been up to
by accident, or through some strange quirk of fate. An accidental slip-up on his
part or on the part
of someone else can clue you in to what’s been happening behind your
back.
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© Copyright 2004 Ruth Houston. All rights reserved.
"Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs" :
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RUTH HOUSTON
is a writer/editor and columnist whose articles have appeared for the
past 18 years in publications here and abroad.
She is a member of the American Society of Journalists and Authors and
is listed in Bacon’s Media Directory and Working Press of the Nations.
Ruth is has been a frequent guest on
"Good Day New York,
TalkAmerica, The
Mike Gallagher Show
and other radio and
TV talk shows nationwide.
"Is
He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs"
is the result of 9 years of research that grew out of Ruth's personal
experience as a victim of infidelity. She is happily re-married and
lives in New York with her husband Manley, and their 8 cats.
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