Even more suspicious was the amount – which
was nearly 5 times the amount of his usual withdrawals – far more than
the cost of the flowers, box of chocolates and Valentine’s Day card he
gave Heather.
Rita’s Story
While dressing for work, Rita’s husband casually mentioned that today
he was treating his secretary to lunch at a French restaurant for
"Secretary’s Day."
Rita became suspicious when he came home from
work 3 ½ hours later than usual. While he was watching the 11 o’clock
news that night, Rita quickly searched her husband’s wallet and the
pockets of the suit he wore to work that day for clues as to where he
might have been.
She was about to dismiss the receipt from the French restaurant when
the time stamp on it caught her eye. It indicated that he
had indeed eaten there -- but for dinner, not for lunch. Now Rita
knew why he was unreachable by phone at the office earlier that
evening when she called to ask him to pick up orange juice on his way
home from work.
Susan’s Story
While checking her husband’s pockets before dropping his clothes off
at the cleaners, Susan found a jewelry store receipt for 2 pairs of
earrings. When she asked her husband about it, he told her the
receipt was for the earrings he’d given her for her birthday the
previous week. Susan pointed out that the receipt was for 2 identical
pairs of earrings. Caught off guard, he could not come up with an
explanation for what he had done with the other pair.
Other Places to Look
Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts -- under
the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the floor
at the back of the closet, or the back of a seldom-used shelf.
Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seats, in
the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.
If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s
obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or
style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name
attached).
Wait for a reasonable period of time. Then check the hiding place
again. If the gift has disappeared and it wasn’t given to you, then
it’s logical to assume that he gave it to someone else. Make it your
business to find out who.
Beverley’s Story
Beverley was ecstatic when she discovered a
box containing a hand crafted, one of a kind gold bracelet that she’d
been admiring for quite some time. But the box soon disappeared and
Beverley never received the bracelet.
A few weeks later, at her health club, Beverley noticed a woman
wearing a bracelet identical to the one she’d seen in the box. After
some discreet checking around, and finding several additional clues to
corroborate her suspicions, Beverly found out that her husband and
this woman were having an affair.
Laura’s Story
Laura found a gift box containing a sexy satin negligee in the trunk
of her husband's car. He tried to pass it off as a surprise gift he’d
purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small. He tried
hard to convince Laura the salesclerk mistakenly put the wrong size in
the box.
But because Laura had already found other telltale signs
of a possible affair, his excuses fell on deaf ears.
Other Telltale Signs
Warning bells should sound if your husband gives or receives any gift
that’s extremely personal nature. He shouldn’t be buying clothing
(especially lingerie) for any female other than you or a member of his
family. Nor should he ever receive silk boxer shorts or any item of
clothing other than a perhaps a tie or handkerchiefs from any woman
other than yourself -- unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And
even then, you should check to make sure.)
Be equally suspicious if your husband gives or receives a
disproportionately expensive gift to or from any woman who is
supposedly a business associate or casual friend. In fact, any
expensive gift your husband receives should be regarded with extreme
suspicion. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for
himself, but can’t produce the receipt.
Keisha’s Story
Keisha became suspicious when her husband Jerome started wearing an
expensive-looking gold ID bracelet. It appeared on his wrist shortly
after his birthday and he wore it all the time.
When she asked Jerome
about it, he said he bought it for himself. But upon further
questioning, Jerome couldn’t recall the name of the store he’d
supposedly bought the bracelet from. Keisha suggested they check the
receipt, so he made a cursory search then claimed he must have thrown
it away.
One weekend while Jerome was painting the apartment, Keisha
noticed he’d removed the ID bracelet. It didn’t take her long to find
it in the top drawer of his dresser. On the underside of the bracelet
was an inscription that read “ With all my love, Tanya.”
Barbara’s Story
Barbara called Stan at work. When Barbara and Stan’s next door
neighbor Judy, moved to a new house she gave a big housewarming
party. While discussing what to give Judy as a housewarming gift,
Stan suggested a CD player, and volunteered to pick up the gift.
The night of the party, when Judy opened the gift, the CD player
turned out to be a Bose sound system. Barbara immediately became
suspicious. Especially since their sound system at home was only a
Sharp. This led Barbara to search for additional telltale signs. She
eventually found out Stan and Judy were having an affair.
Don’t Be the Last One to Know
Lovers give each other gifts throughout the
year. However you should be especially watchful around your husband’s
birthday, and Christmas and Valentine’s Day. If you suspect your
husband of cheating, gifts could provide the missing pieces of the
infidelity puzzle. Especially if you’ve already found other telltale
signs.
It may be time to sit down and have a serious talk with your husband.
If your marriage is in jeopardy, you don’t want to be the last to
know. Find out what’s going on before it’s too late.
© 2004 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved
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NOTE:
"Is
He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs"
contains 21 categories of telltale signs. There are 52 telltale signs
listed in the category of "Financial Affairs" and 19 telltale signs
listed in the category of "Gifts."
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here for more information on the 21 categories of telltale signs.